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You Keep Using That Word...

I do not think it means what you think it means.--Inigo Montoya, The Princess Bride

I’d appreciate it if Maggie Gallagher could take a moment from going on about the alleged redefinition of “marriage” (1) and explain her patent redefinition of “religious tolerance.” 

Repealing the Federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) would not—could not—compel a single church to extend the rite to a couple against its will (as someone also raised Catholic, I have a hard time crediting how she could possibly misunderstand this—she gets that lots of other religions marry divorced folks, right?)  

As inconvenient as Gallagher might find it, there are also denominations that sanctify gay and lesbian marriages.   I can name three off the top of my head that have done so for more than a decade, including the one I was married in 2001. (2)  

Apparently, some faiths, like some people, are more deserving of tolerance than others.


1) Sacred vow to love and cherish, forsaking all others, through good times and bad, right?

2)  The Universalist-Unitarian Association of Congregations (UUA), the Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) and the the American Catholic Church, where I would make my faith home in a minute if there was one closer than 167 miles away.


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Mar. 20th, 2009 02:35 am (UTC)
I hate that word
Tolerance.....that is to put up with. Like a toothache. Or a screaming kid in a cafe.

I think tolerance is not the answer. Acceptance and being inclusive is a better aim.
Mar. 20th, 2009 02:08 pm (UTC)
Re: I hate that word
Oh, I totally agree about acceptance and inclusive being much better words for a whole host of ways in which humans interact.

But this argument always makes me crazy. If Gallagher were honestly interested in keeping the government from telling religions what they must believe, then repealing DOMA should practically be her mandate...because there are religions who do not define marriage as one man/one woman and all she claims she's asking for is freedom for folks to practice their faith as they see fit.
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